What I have learned.
1. I am far from perfect.
2. I will forever be a work in progress, and I am good with that realization.
3. Mistakes aren't always a bad thing. Sometimes you can learn the most from those errors in judgement and non-perfect happenings life throws your way.
4. I'm pretty sure I will be done with life, when I am done learning.
5. I'm not in any rush for either. So keep pitching life lessons my way God.
"Emerging from a Black Hole"
Bryn Athyn, PA
Mistakes are okay. Making the same ones over and over again? Not so much. To keep falling into that all too familiar black hole. Because when that happens, it means the onus is totally on you. It isn't a mistake anymore, it's morphed into a choice. You haven't learned anything. You might actually be a bit dense to keep repeating the pattern. Go straight to the blackboard and write "I am a moron" fifty times, then go back to your desk and put your head down on your Life is Unfair textbook.
What I have recently learned is that some "friendships" are like this. They feel like a black hole of negativity. They swallow up any positive energy being thrown their way, and suck you right in. I'm old enough, and smart enough, to realize life is too short for these black holes. And quite honestly, calling them a "friendship" is a misnomer. When it comes right down to it, you can only say "Help I've fallen and I can't get up" so many times before the responsibility shifts totally to you and your responsibility for putting yourself in that situation. Recently I have been telling myself "Back away from the black hole dummy". From my mistakes I have learned that there are some who just will never give back and who are quite comfortable living in that black hole of negativity. Not only do they like it there, they want people to keep them company. Personally, I like lighter and brighter digs to kick back in. Darkness has it's purpose, it helps us to truly appreciate the light. But given the choice, I'm gonna choose light every single time.
Most living organisms will naturally head towards the light to survive. Black holes aren't the natural habitat for anything other than massive stars that have run out of fuel. They've hit "empty" on their energy gauge, both literally and figuratively. My mistake has been believing it's okay to put up with a relationship that isn't symbiotic and fueled by negativity BECAUSE you consider the person a friend. But what I've learned from that mistake is a REAL friend would never consider asking you to share a black hole with them because it isn't conducive to a healthy survival. Sometimes...you need to break free and head towards your own light. Escape the black hole before you are totally sucked in. Learn from your mistake. Thrive.
Still a work in progress. Still learning. Still good with that realization.
Most living organisms will naturally head towards the light to survive. Black holes aren't the natural habitat for anything other than massive stars that have run out of fuel. They've hit "empty" on their energy gauge, both literally and figuratively. My mistake has been believing it's okay to put up with a relationship that isn't symbiotic and fueled by negativity BECAUSE you consider the person a friend. But what I've learned from that mistake is a REAL friend would never consider asking you to share a black hole with them because it isn't conducive to a healthy survival. Sometimes...you need to break free and head towards your own light. Escape the black hole before you are totally sucked in. Learn from your mistake. Thrive.
Still a work in progress. Still learning. Still good with that realization.
