May 29, 2014

Alone isn't always lonely...


"Whosoever is delighted in solitude
is either a wild beast, or a god."

-Aristotle


"Solitude"
Devon Horse Show
Devon, Pennsylvania


Solitude is under rated.  Avoided by many.  For some, not embraced to the point of maintaining relationships with people they don't care for, or who don't care for them...just so they won't be alone.  Probably because many equate being "alone" with being "lonely".  Fact:  you can be lonely even when you are FAR from alone.

I'm an extrovert.  I like to talk.  I like to listen.  I like to be surrounded by the company of my herd.  Solitude is not a natural habitat for moi.  But I've come to realize solitude isn't a burden, but a gift.  It bestows an independence from relying on anyone.  Or, anyone relying on me.  It's an opportunity to stop doing for others, and do for myself.  Which means recharging.  These days I chiefly recharge thru creating via photography and writing.

I find solitude revitalizing and therefore necessary.  For some, it takes a god-like Herculean strength to accomplish this feat.  With practice, I'm finding it comes more naturally.  Without much thought.  As if my body knows when it's time to separate from the herd.  It also knows when I need to return to the protection and safety of that same herd.  A balancing act.  At times I have tipped the scale too far in either direction.  I blame that on the fact that I am NOT god-like.  I am flawed, like the wild beast.

FYI, this post comes to you as a direct result of a few moments of solitude.  Now...back to my herd.







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22 comments:

  1. I adore this post, Kathy. I'm glad you are finding the time and honoring the need to enjoy solitude.
    Beautiful capture of the horse.

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  2. Very cleverly written, Kathy! I have missed dropping by to see you and your 'one of kind' posts. I have much better energy, finally and have been swimming upstream in blogville but it feels great to be among active and lively again. Great photograph, too! ♥, Renae

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    1. Thanks for getting my humor, Kathy! Sure love yours. ♥

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  3. So well said, Kathy. I am both an extrovert and introvert - depends on my mood!

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  4. Or, me. :) I do like my alone time, for sure...especially as I age.

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  5. Love your thoughts on this! I think I have the solitude thing down pat, due to my introversion. It's definitely a recharging thing verses not liking people or socializing. I just need it to continue. But what I really like about what you wrote is the whole idea of maintaining relationships you don't care for due to fear of being lonely. I'm learning more and more that if someone doesn't seem to ever give a hoot about me, but just takes, it does my soul well to let them go. I start to resent the energy spent on that person with no return. That's a drain on an intro!

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    1. THAT is a drain on an extro too! :)

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  6. Well said! In an odd way, as I have gotten older, embracing solitude has 'cured' me of a certain loneliness that plagued me most of my life. Ironic, right?

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    1. Sometimes, we are our own best company. And when we finally realize that...it's impossible to be lonely.

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  7. Aristotle was wrong. I am neither a beast nor (definitely not!) a god, but, as an introvert, I thrive on solitude and would probably perish without it. It sounds like even in Aristotle's day extroversion was considered "normal" for human beings. One thing's for sure, though...being in an uncaring, desperation-type relationship is far lonelier than actually being alone.

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  8. Beautiful photo. I delight in solitude from humans. My herd really is my goat herd and the rest of my animal family. I guess that makes me a wild beast too.

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  9. I think I can be a introvert at times... I do love my alone times and solitude is something that tends to make me feel calm and centred again ready to take on the hurly burly of life

    Mollyxxx

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  10. What a beautiful photo. The older I get the more I Love my alone time. Love your thoughts here.

    Hugs~

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  11. Anytime you can find solitude, you've struck a gold mine! Lovely photo!

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  12. I am in desperate need of solitude, that is where my creative soul lies.

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  13. I have ALWAYS loved my solitude. Maybe it's because my days are filled with chattering, testing teenagers? HAHA! But I do love "my herd" just as you do too & relish in those times we can all gather together.
    Beautiful post dear friend.

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  14. Beauty , Just Beauty.. I love my alone time, to do whatever I need to do. Its too busy here at times.
    Loved your post

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  15. I sooooo agree with this post. There are times when I actually NEED to be alone .... and I am not lonely.
    diane @ thoughts and shots

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  16. your right about solitude....it's all about balance and compromise. being mindful of others needs!!

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  17. I do love being alone every now and then. I love it when there is no noise in the background and I can relax, think, and just enjoy life! Like it almost as much as being surrounded by everyone I love! Thanks for sharing with SYC. Love the photo!
    hugs,
    Jann

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